fs: skip watching ignored paths in recursive watcher

Instead of just filtering events, skip watching ignored paths entirely
to avoid kernel resource pressure from unnecessary file watchers.
This is especially important for large directories like node_modules.

Author: mcollina

lib/internal/fs/recursive_watch.js

@@ -130,9 +130,15 @@ class FSWatcher extends EventEmitter {
         }
 
         const f = pathJoin(folder, file.name);
+        const relativePath = pathRelative(this.#rootPath, f);
+
+        // Skip watching ignored paths entirely to avoid kernel resource pressure
+        if (this.#ignoreMatcher?.(relativePath)) {
+          continue;
+        }
 
         if (!this.#files.has(f)) {
-          this.#emitChange('rename', pathRelative(this.#rootPath, f));
+          this.#emitChange('rename', relativePath);
 
           if (file.isSymbolicLink()) {
             this.#symbolicFiles.add(f);

test/parallel/test-fs-watch-ignore-recursive.js

@@ -130,8 +130,8 @@ tmpdir.refresh();
 
   const watcher = fs.watch(testDirectory, {
     recursive: true,
-    // Use array to match both the directory itself and files inside it
-    // On macOS, FSEvents may report events for the directory when files change inside it
+    // On Linux, matching the directory skips watching it entirely.
+    // On macOS, the native watcher still needs to filter file events inside.
     ignore: ['**/node_modules/**', '**/node_modules'],
   });